Jon measures up with this:
Hey James, could you answer me two honest questions? No Honest! What's the size of most guy's dicks? How long do most guys last when sucking and fucking before they come? I'm 7 and 1/2 and about 25-30 minutes .... how do I do? Is there anything you'd suggest to improve either statistic?

James says:
From research it appears that the average dick is around 6" however in reality there is greater variation between dick size. Having said that most guys do have dicks between 4.5" and 7.5" so you will find very few guys outside of this range. So if you are 7.5" then you should be making porn movies! It does of course depend on how you measure your dick as well - the generally considered way is to measure the upper side of your dick from the pubic bone to the tip while erect.

As for making your dick bigger there are tablets and also pumps on the market which claim to make your dick bigger. There has been some concern as to the safety of the these products and also a lot of doubt as to whether they work or not, particularly long term. It is probably best to be happy with what you have got!

When measuring how long a guy can last this is usually the time between starting to fuck someone and to the point where you cum. It doesn't usually include foreplay such as sucking. Most guys on average will last around 3-5 minutes of fucking before they cum. This is perfectly normal.

There are quite a few factors that affect your ability to cum. If a guy cums very quickly while fucking, for example in a few seconds, then this is called premature ejaculation. Anyone who cums too quickly or would just like to make sex a longer experience can try different methods to lengthen the time before you cum.

One of the most important factors is experience. The more you know your body and how to work up to 'the point of no return' where you no longer have control over cuming will help a lot. Practise on your own, building yourself up to the point where you want to cum, and then stop. Start again, build it up right to the point where you feel you are going to cum and then stop again. This way you learn to control when you orgasm. Most porn stars can actually hold their orgasms at the point where they are going to cum until they are ready and then they shoot.

Remember also that alcohol, smoking, drugs and other factors such as anxiety and stress can also affect your ability to cum and will often prolong the time until you do cum.

Howard needs to know:
I'm thinking of a holiday early next year and want to enjoy myself with some escorts or rent boys. Amsterdam, Bangkok, Prague, Riga and Sydney have all been suggested as the best places in the world, so what should I do? Where do you get the best guys, and where are they most easily found? If you are new to a city (as a tourist) how do you quickly find out where the action is?

James replies:
Well Amsterdam is a great place - that's where OutUK and freshsx are both based! And there are a lot of very good escorts here. I am sure the other cities have great guys too but obviously they will be more based on the ethnicity of that country. So isn't it best to go somewhere where you can find the guys you like? Make your mind up what sort of guys you prefer, and also think about what other things you want to get up to while on holiday apart from just hiring escorts!

Try doing some searches on the internet to see what guys are available in those cities - a lot of guys work independently and advertise on the internet. Also try doing a search for male brothels as well, they are legal in some countries, such as Holland for example.

The internet really is the best resource for research into where to go and what to do, there is virtually nothing that you can't find out nowadays on the web. Have a look at the travel section on OutUK as well, there's a lot of cities covered here, with some useful information about the gay scene in each of guides. Click on the orange OutGoing section for details.

You can also get hold of a copy of Spartacus from any gay shop, some other booksellers and of course you can Buy Spartacus Online. This is the ultimate gay travel guide and is updated yearly, so make sure you get one for this year. Spartacus will give you all the information you need for a gay trip including saunas, escorts, brothels, cruising grounds, etc.

When you arrive in a new place always check out the local gay bars, cafes, and gay shops as they will have flyers and free guides to what to do and where to go.

Chris sends Seasonal Greetings:
I want my boyfriend to come to my Mum and Dad's for Christmas, but he refuses to go. He says he loves me, and they can't wait to meet him, so what's his problem? We never argue and get on really well, but every time we get spotted in public he's always 10ft away from me and claiming he's just a friend. What's wrong with me? What can I do about him?